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I’ve seen the “hot girl” thing backfire. Happily married men are not going to risk a fight with the wife to meet, invest, hire, mentor a woman who throws up crazy attention/validation seeking red flags. Don’t need to be a prude but consider the optics and position of your target.

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viktoriia

@vikushavas

· Mar 12

“hot girl in tech” sure seems like an occupation at this point because idk what half of y’all do besides manifesting forbes 30 under 30 and tweeting something like “at a tech party and someone just asked what discords i am in…yikes touch some grass!!”

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Leigh Cuen

@La__Cuen

Mar 13

A happily married wife doesn’t fight w/her husband if he hires a hot woman who is great at her job or invests in 1 who will make him rich. If a wife is insecure, that says something. (Not to discredit your point sometimes the “hot girl” personas backfire. That’s true too.)

Leonardo DiCatbrio

@BTCBullALTBear

Mar 13

Also true. But that’s only one situation in which this could backfire. Ultimately it’s an appeal to the wrong crowd for recognition, and just makes a woman look like her priorities are in the wrong place if she’s fueling her career with a need for validation.

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Exactly. Its about the persona, not the attractiveness. It’s about mitigating risks, not insecurity. The ultimate form of validation is a man blowing up his whole life for you. A good partner should care when their spouse comes under attack by a validation seeker. It’s a risk.

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I wonder how that validation-seeking persona applies to male influencers, some of which come w/considerable reputational risks. A few come to mind that I personally wouldn’t have taken the risk on. 🤔 I agree w/what you’re saying in general. Yet people just use what they have.

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