My first Race Manners column for offers some advice to a reader who wants to listen to Black people when it comes to racism and related policy issues but claims to have no idea who to believe when Black people disagree
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Harper’s letter remains the most embarrassing fucking thing like how do y’all get out of bed in the morning
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No link because the idea of everyone celebrating "starting a conversation" after publishing something they all know is dumb is still too much for me
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This reminds me of the guy who told my friend she had an all-time high score on the spreadsheet he used to rank women so he wanted to date her. He'd given her all these points for being a Christian & she wasn't at all! She was like its ok you can just say you're attracted to me
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“Remember when we had all decided this was filthy?” - loud as hell walking past the Whole Foods salad bar
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People are going to be so dumb. And I guess that (in addition to the racism) is the idea.
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Like I want to feel confident that if you hate each other and it’s only been three weeks, things aren’t going to work out. But ^^^^
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This seemingly blissful marriage is always in the back of my mind making me wonder if every piece of relationship advice I give is wrong
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OK friends. ANY letter might be fake and most are probably fake in some way. And I'm not skipping this because I already chose it.
So let me rephrase: Treating it as real, what advice would you give to this seemingly gross person who might want to do one right thing?
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🚨 What should this guy do? How can he help Bertha? And/or this entire family? I'll quote a few people in my response! 🚨
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Notice how Black women and other multiply marginalized Black scholars were targeted and erased from this curriculum. "The expunged writers and scholars include Kimberlé W. Crenshaw... Gone, too, is bell hooks, the writer who shaped discussions about race, feminism and class."
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The College Board stripped down some of its AP curriculum for African American Studies after Gov. Ron DeSantis of Florida threatened to ban it in his state.
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I hate that we have to cover another police killing. But I'm glad I have a colleague like who can help me process what happened in Memphis. Thank you, Joel.
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missed the "eli" and thought this was a february fact about whitney houston. i was just staring ... thinking ... trying to figure out the joke ... wondering if it was about that al sharpton thing ...
i'm going to finish my coffee now!
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yearly reminder that half the country was incorrectly taught that eli whitney was black
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I have a few months before book promo really kicks into gear and ALL I WANT TO DO with that time is develop an app or UI that lets me tip hotel cleaners, valets, etc. without carrying cash. It is 2023! This should be easy!! C’mon, people!!!
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did you ask your doctor about a prescription drug because you saw a commercial for it? talk to me for a story about it! dm me or email me at emily.stewart@vox.com.
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Before it was all apps, the way to meet your spouse was to almost stay home but then at the last minute agree to be dragged to something
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Lean heavily toward saying yes to the little weekend trip — driving to NYC or whatever it is where you live. Those will be the memories you talk about for YEARS. The laundry and being rested for work can wait. Actually, say yes to most social stuff. Never know who you'll meet.
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People who are 40+ and happy with their life, what is your advice to people in their 20s?
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My cousin makes and sells the cutest oversized bowties for dogs! I had to share: preciouspuchbakery.com/products/bougi
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Weird that some publications are now sharing their mission statements as instagram memes
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WRITERS/FREELANCERS: Looking for dating stories for My Imperfect Life. The more unusual and modern, the better. (Sorry, but not looking for yet another "I'm dating myself!" essay). DM away! #journorequest
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Omg this is so true.
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You use HelloFresh one time and they gon harass you like the mob for the rest of your life.
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this excellent. worth noting was a zero percent chance of getting something like this published as straight “news” in 2014 or 15. Instead It would have been a piece full of police “experts” explaining how *actually what the cops did was reasonable”
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Congrats to teams One Year: 1986, Slow Burn: Roe v. Wade and What Next on their 2023 Ambies nominations! So deserved (and we love a little friendly competition🤗)
#TheAmbies 🏆
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Marie Kondo told y’all to chill out and organize and some of you took it to a cultish level. That lady was all vibes, if you feel betrayed by her admitting to being messy now because of her kids you were the ones who did too much. You didn’t need storage bins. You needed therapy.
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Shoutout to the icon who subscribed to my newsletter by accident and then sent me an email with this subject line:
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If I edited you at please raise your hand! I'm making a list (for something too boring to explain right now)
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So a lot of people were surprised by Brian's alleged drug use! I looked it up & around this time 14% of 6th graders thought their friends used marijuana but only 4% said they personally did. So maybe people lied on the survey or maybe I made unfair claims against him
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Found a childhood diary yesterday and I feel like my 6th grade reasoning was pretty solid!
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If you’re going to send a ridiculous request for a thing that’s not even done, make sure to include as many questions and demands as possible!
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Obsessed with this bookstore
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Found a childhood diary yesterday and I feel like my 6th grade reasoning was pretty solid!
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The idea that cops who mean well simply get scared and kill Black people by mistake in split second decisions fueled by media stereotypes living in the back of their brains was really something I bought into! And I thought it was very hard hitting to point it out! 😐
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I’m sure unconscious bias is very real but at this point I think “bloodthirsty people of all races are inclined to join a gang where racism explains why they typically get away with killling Black people” is probably a better framing
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Replying to @TiffanyDCross
These police murders remind about my husband saying guys in boot camp admitted they joined the military to kill people without going to prison. This ex cop said the same thing. They murder people & take their chances in court.
medium.com/@OfcrACab/conf
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I remembered writing something long ago about how Black cops kill Black people too so I looked it up. I can’t believe how naive - and just honestly, missing the point - all my focus on “unconscious bias” & “cultural stereotypes” that “run deep” sounds now vox.com/2015/5/5/85474
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I keep seeing the news report the one line about peaceful protests instead of all the words the family said about Justice for their son. Here are the family’s demands. Here are community demands. Spread these. There’s much work to do. #TyreNichols
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