I just talked to my brother for the first time since getting engaged. To say it did not go well would be a significant understatement. It was not a surprise, and yet, expectation does not exactly soften these things.
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Hey Cat -- Reading everything you wrote, I can feel a lot of emotion including those encompassing pain and frustration. I don't know all the intricate dynamics of your relationship with him, but I do feel I have a sliver of understanding for what you are going through.
I am ...
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so sorry that you are in this position. What I can say is that I know you are a wonderful and charismatic person and that you obviously have a desire to mend the relationship and make it better -- but perhaps that isn't something he cares as much for which is very unfortunate ...
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Just remember that you have a lot of people that do care about you and love you and that sometimes life puts us in the weirdest places with respect to our family members. I do hope that the future will bring him some understanding and self-reflection so that perhaps one day ...
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.. the two of you might possibly enjoy the type of relationship you had far back in the past. Until that time, keep your head up and keep being the wonderful person that you are.
All the best and congratulations on your engagement!
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Thank you for this, truly. It is so well said and kind, and very much the approach I'm taking. It is really affirming despite the difficult circumstances to feel that others understand the complexities of families this way. Thank you ☺️
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