stephanie

personally in a world of such extensive & tight-gripped circlejerking i think it's totally fair game to be kind of an asshole when punching up on oneoff tweets! some vcs punch back in good humor, some vcs think this is "bullying" and that is because they are big babies

a big criticism of reply limits is How will we call out influential assholes when they are being assholes? imo this is what the quote tweet is for. i think everyone incl me should be subject to oneoff dunks and the quote tweet should be sacred

the big difference to me between qts and replies is that qts go to the quoter's audience whereas replies go to the op's audience, which means that asshole randos are highly incentivized to reply for attention. personally i get way more substanceless bullshit replies than qts

this might change with the new "retweets with comments" view which attaches qts to the op. this gives more impact to qts but also i think it'd be wrong to roll out reply limits without it as there needs to be some path to accountability visible from the original tweet

let's go back to 3) sometimes i am an asshole to my sweet, loyal, dumb followers. this apparently feels unjustified to many so let me explain that when u are a girl online, lots of men think it's ok to be extremely, insanely, terrifyingly familiar with u all the fucking time

esp when using my real name & face in a small industry it is very uncomfy to get flirty replies from eg the head of design at (big redacted co) or the former cto of (big redacted co) as well as random software engineers all over sf it's fucking weird as hell and i hate it!

and turns out when i finally snapped and started being an asshole to reply guys and following through on blocking them, the volume of uncomfortable & overfamiliar replies & dms went down by a lot. on the flip side i get more vicious harassment bc of course you can't win