stephanie

men: women are so irrational and emotional, unlike me, who only relies on logic and statistics also men: as a parent, your statistics mean nothing to mehttps://twitter.com/isosteph/status/1214028254421471232 …

men: most parents fall neatly into the categories that fit into my world view and don't require me to challenge my thinking at all women: that's literally not true look at the statistics men: I SAID MOST PARENTS

Honestly, it just sucks as a father who's over here trying to be an equal partner to get lumped in with shitty average people who share my genitalia. I woulda carried that baby myself if it was biologically possible.

I feel this, but this response is structurally the same as "not all men". It's important to just hear what is being said, accept that there is a real social problem (that even those of us who are trying are probably not 100% successful), and to not recenter on our feelings.

I absolutely acknowledge that women pay a higher cost in having children, and that's a serious problem that needs to be fixed. When my wife was pregnant, I was really just frustrated that I *couldn't* do more to help. That's all I'm really trying to convey.

I also feel like one of the root causes is that society encourages men to be shitty fathers (eg. "it's emasculating to change diapers" and other toxic nonsense) and I think that has to be part of the calculus if we're ever going to fix things.

this is great and all but imagine if you tweeted abt how men are emasculated for parenting and you had some guys having a lively discussion about the issue and then i popped into your replies just to say “uhh not everyone’s like that, *i* never emasculate men for parenting!”