stephanie

“having kids” is a thing soooo frequently espoused by men in tech as the best thing that ever happened to them lmfao 35% of pregnant women develop hemorrhoids and 90% of them literally tear their fuckin vaginas open during birth but tell me abt how ur kid taught u to value family

As a parent I find this a weird take. My guess is that the vast majority (i.e. 99%) of mothers also say that children are the best thing. Pregnancy and birth is 40 wks + 48 hours. Parenthood is for decades. My wife barely remembers the pregnancy/birth times.

ofc mothers are glad they had their kids but how many would describe them as a "life hack"? how many men are risking permanent bodily damage for those kids? re: decades of parenthood, how many men are cooking for their kids, remembering their friends, picking them up from school?

how many women sacrificed careers for those kids while their partners didn't? how many of these men who talk about how great kids are didn't give a single shit about women or mothers at work before it became personal? just a total lack of self awareness here jesus christ

Total facepalm. Ugly truth: most couples out there are balanced and actually share duties. Not 1920 anymore. And yes, men have all rights to claim joy from fatherhood. You have too much spare energies to waste judging others.

Not claiming that there are no issues - there are many, starting with maternity leave and career. Especially in the US. In Europe things are slightly better, far from perfect. Yet original message is a brutal generalization.

It is easy to dismiss it as a generalization when doing so lets you refuse to see how it advantages you.