OK, this is the worst plausible take that my brain has ever handed me. You're going to hate it. I hate it. Given the evidence of difference in school performance and maturation rates, we should treat being male as a learning disability and support it as such.
most peoples conception of individualism is that it means not relying on other people given that you are not relying on someone, telling them your feelings is usually counterproductive at best relying on people is a sign that you aren't capable of standing on your own
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Why does expressing one's feelings imply relying on someone? Why would it be counter-productive? (I can imagine it being counter-productive if you're seeking a specific reaction + not open to other reactions. But if you own your feelings, seems fine/cool?)
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communicating feelings is usually a request for help, in some fashion if the goal is to seem competent, then sharing feelings feels like incompetence you can look good at dealing with emotions by either denying/bottling or well-practiced communication ...
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men are expected to be able to deal with their emotions on their own, but are never taught how hence lots of bottling and denial
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Agree with that, but don't see how it follows directly from being taught agency. The cause seems more like being punished for expressing feelings—not being encouraged to be an individual. It may be the other way around: individualism cultivated to deal with emotional isolation.
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