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Share of US men under 30 not having sex almost triples in 10 years, study finds

US news March 29, 2019
Washington Post Data Reporter Christopher Ingraham took a look at stats from the General Social Survey which found that the number of people in the US "not getting laid is at a record high." The data also indicated that the number of men in the US under 30 not having sex has risen from 10% in 2008 to 28% in 2018. Answering questions from readers, Ingraham took a look at why this might be the case.
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Those numbers are helping drive a big shift in American sex-having habits: the number not getting laid is at a record high. Conversely, the number reporting sex weekly or more is on the decline.

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Why is that ? Why so high?

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Glad you asked! 1. Young male labor force participation has fallen. Less work = less relationships = less sex 2. Alongside that, men in that age group are more likely than women to live with their parents which presents... obvious barriers to having sex.

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There also *might* be a effect considering the drastic rise in 2018. But that's pretty speculative at this point, and the expert I talked to for this story noted that the rise in young men's celibacy was well underway prior to 2018.

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Twenge said it was plausible as a contributor and I think it's worth thinking about. I mean if so it seems like a positive development? It could mean that young people, men especially, are now less likely to pursue sex in situations where consent is murky.

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Marriage and aging are part of it! I get into it all in the piece. But there are also explanations for the growing gap btwn men and women

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I see a lot of jokes along these lines BUT: married people are way more likely to have sex. For instance only 11 percent of the married didn't have sex last year, compared to 34 percent of the unmarried

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Final datapoint: the share of young men reporting no female sex partners since they turned 18 -- a rough a proxy for virginity -- more than tripled since 2008. I say rough proxy bc 1) some had sex in their teens and 2) some exclusively have male partners.

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Everybody gets asked two separate questions: how many women, and how many men. The share of men reporting a male partner has inched up by a few points in recent years, but nowhere near enough to make up for the increase in men reporting no women partners.

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Oh also: 18-30 year olds are nearly *twice* as likely to report past-year celibacy as 50-somethings, which is frankly amazing

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Can I ask, do you think there is any relationship with the ease of access to porn as well?

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The expert I talked to for the story thinks it's a factor, but one of many.

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sure, sex is great, but have you tried not having sex, I guess

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