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23. detrans butch lesbian female ⚢ radfem & anti-capitalist. ADHD advocate. was on T for 1.5yrs. female spiritualist. prefer to engage w ppl who have empathy.

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    a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

    do you think youve experienced #RapidOnsetGenderDysphoria? do you have a child or friend that you think may have #ROGD? i lived w #rogd for 3 years believing i wasnt a girl bc the #transcult told me i didn’t have to be. i wanna answer any questions u have abt #ROGD or #beingtrans

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      2. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        also if you’re too nervous to message or reply to me you can ask at my curiouscat! i don’t bite, i promise. :-) http://curiouscat.me/guessimafab 

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      3. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        the basics: id been “part of the LGBT community” (aka, i ID’d as bi and was active on tumblr) thru of high school. i’d been a tomboy when i was young, had a sexuality crisis in middle school, and went thru HS as a “regular girl”- i wasnt feminine, but wasn’t gender nonconforming.

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      4. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        i often joked to my friends & on my twitter account that i “wish i had been born a boy” bc i “just didn’t GET being a girl”! i was a theater kid but not a “weird kid”, i was well-liked & all of my friends were either straight girls or gay boys- nearly all of whom i crushed on.

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      5. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        the boy i was seeing from the end of my senior year of high school through to the beginning of my second year of college was a jerk, but i thought i loved him. he policed what i acted and looked like to the point where i feared that if i cut or dyed my hair, he would dump me.

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      6. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        as he grew less interested in me towards the end of our relationship i could tell, & i began to panic. i just wanted to be someone he could be attracted to/into. when he ended things, i asked what i could do to make him change his mind. he said nothing, he just didn’t want me.

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      7. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        over the next six months, i alternated between deep, isolating self-loathing and rebounding with my (same) ex, though i knew i shouldn’t have, and would end up sleeping with him every few weeks even though i knew he didn’t want to get back together, which didn’t allow me to grow.

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      8. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        we broke up in september, i saw him periodically until march. in this time i first cut my hair into a bob (after days of agonizing fearing i’d be ugly) & it felt amazing. in nov., i discovered “non-binary gender identities” & started to research. a look: TW for self harm mentpic.twitter.com/XtFRQO66Tv

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      9. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        this is the time when my memories get a little foggy. i can’t tell you exactly what i was thinking. i just kept reading and internalizing all of the ideas that the #transcult stressed: it didn’t matter if i’d never had sex dysphoria, i could still be not cis, and that was valid.

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      10. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        & anyway, i’d never liked my large breasts, so maybe that HAD been dysphoria & i didn’t realize. the community said so. i was still VERY wary/nervous, hadn’t told anyone i felt this way til i joined a club in college where i met my first “trans person” (imo, another girl w ROGD).

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      11. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        she identified as “agender” and used they/them pronouns. the meeting was the first time i had to do a pronoun circle. i was meeting these people for the first time and had a chance to start over and be a new person. so when it came around to me, i said my pronouns were they/them.

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      12. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        no one questioned me. i took a deep breath. okay, so that felt fine. when they addressed me they used they/them pronouns. i considered how it made me feel: i didn’t mind it. i told them i was still “exploring my gender identity” & they all affirmed that & told me to take my time.

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      13. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        i continued to “research”. i got deeper into the online theory. my friends from the club & i went to an week-long event together that was INCREDIBLY trans-positive. i’d been thinking abt my discomfort w my female name, & they encouraged me to “try a new name” just for the event.

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      14. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        so i did. the name i chose was androgynous, not exclusively male, & i began to introduce myself by it. it felt... cool, i didn’t have to think about who i was or had been, which all felt tied to my female name. i could create an entirely new identity for myself, & it was “valid”.

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      15. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        while i was at this event i met a straight guy i started to like. i told him i was non-binary, so not a girl, & he was like “okay cool no biggie”. we started to date about a month later, and over the next six more months or so i “explored my gender identity”, with his “support”.

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      16. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        i cut my hair into a pixie and started to wear men’s/neutral clothes more and my bf still liked me! he said he’d like me no matter what! it felt amazing, like coming home after i’d been dressing up and playing the part of a feminine girl for my previous boyfriend for so so long.

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      17. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        this was the case, w my “NB” identity, til fall ‘16 when i transferred to living away at a new college. i started to feel stressed abt my identity. i knew no one would take me seriously as a “nb” person or see me as anything other than a girl. i didn’t WANT to be seen as a girl.

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      18. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        i looked to the #transcult. apparently, some non-binary people went by male pronouns! it didnt mean they were MEN (i’d insisted to myself since the beginning that there was no way i was a MAN, bc men were trash, and why would i wanna be one of them?). cool! i changed my pronouns.

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      19. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        my bf was cool with it. he knew i wasn’t MALE or anything so it didn’t threaten his sexuality or masculinity. the pronoun change REALLY amped me up. i was living in “gender neutral LGBT housing” on campus and we put our pronouns on our dorm room door. every day it was a reminder.

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      20. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        after a few weeks the anxiety i was experiencing from having my family unaware of my feelings & situation really started to weigh on me but i KNEW they would NOT understand being non-binary. once, i’d tried to talk to them about the agender girl i knew - they were lost (& amused)

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      21. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

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        but i felt SO MUCH BETTER & more comfortable in my appearance & my mannerisms using he/him pronouns & ~being trans. i decided if i had any chance of them accepting me i had to play it like i was a Trans Man, bc it was a narrative they knew. which leads to:https://twitter.com/guessimafab/status/1126095884138291202?s=21 …

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        a friend @guessimafab
        here it is in its full, maladaptive glory. if i’d read this for the first time now, written by someone else, i wouldve reacted in a similar to my parents at the time. unfortunately, they didn’t know the scope of the cultlogic & how utterly mind-consuming it can be. names redacted pic.twitter.com/eve2jmeIt3
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      22. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

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        and then: (come back to this thread when you’re done reading these links, i’m not done!)https://twitter.com/guessimafab/status/1126461280120901632?s=21 …

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        a friend @guessimafab
        when i look back at the day i “came out as trans” to my parents i feel so overwhelmed w guilt & shame. they & i both had no idea the extent to which the ideology had been hammered into my brain as irrefutable.. they did their best and it ended with a screaming match & me leaving.
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      23. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        bc my parents hadn’t affirmed me & i’d left in a fit, all of my friends & the community were HUGELY affirmative following my “coming out”. luckily, i have amazing (non-bigoted) parents who assured me that they loved me & wanted me to be happy, they just believed i was mistaken.

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      24. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        i thought i was okay w my life. i had a bf who told me w/e i wanted to hear- when i caught him flirting w a girl, he insisted it was a mistake & it wouldn’t happen again (it would). i asked if it was bc i wasn’t a girl/feminine for him & he insisted no (it was). so i forgave him.

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      25. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        he was the only support i had/cared about at the time, bc i was hurt by my parents. i was terrified he‘d realize he didn’t want to be w a trans guy and leave me for a pretty girl. i was up his ass constantly looking for approval that it was okay for me to be who i wanted to be.

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      26. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        literally all i ever thought about was him and my gender. i lived away at school until may, either holed up in my dorm room on tumblr/leftbook or driving to my bf’s place to hang w him and our friends (his group of friends that i slid into). my isolation & depression was growing.

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      27. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        the weekend b4 i moved home for the summer, i caught him flirting with another girl. i forgave him again but it pushed my stress level over the edge & sent me into the worst gastrointestinal pain i’ve ever had & have been dealing w since. i had to have surgery when i came home.

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      28. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        so i lived home all summer, recovering from surgery, depressed, anxious, feeling misunderstood & disrespected by my parents. i had a lot of time on my hands. i started watching testosterone videos on youtube. i started thinking about what it would be/feel like to pass as a man.

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      29. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        i have ADHD, and have been unmediated my entire life. i got incredibly hyperfocused on watching testosterone videos. they were all happy. they all looked... like i wanted to look. they all talked about how being on T made them confident, self assured, comfortable in themselves.

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      30. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

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        my parents, seeing how depressed i had been, & having not had the past year while i was away to spend a lot of time with me, tried to understand. my mom reached out to a coworker whose son is trans and she was put in touch with my gender therapist.https://twitter.com/guessimafab/status/1126827479589638144?s=21 …

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        Replying to @waters_ivan @TheClash709 and 4 others
        my therapist had a masters in social work & was licensed in clinical social work (LCSW). his official stance is “that the gender therapist’s and medical provider(s) role is to support the client in their gender ID & not to be gatekeepers for medically necessary treatment.”
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      31. a friend‏ @guessimafab 14 May 2019

        i discuss this more in the replies to ^ that tweet, but i was SOOOOO THRILLED when i looked into who the therapist was. i knew this meant i’d won- he had diagnosed my mom’s friend’s child with GD and connected him w a doctor to prescribe T. i felt like i was set.

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