Huge whitepill on dementia, my grandma has it and she's never been happier. She used to fret about bills and now she doesn't care about anything. Good for her.
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Mine was frustrated when she could no longer perform simple tasks, then terrified of the world around her, then angry & violent towards the people she used to love, and finally she starved to death because she couldn't remember how to eat.
Worst thing I've ever seen.
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Damn that sucks, wonder why some people take it different
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I hope you never have to see it.
If I'm diagnosed with dementia or Alzheimer's that'll be my last day on earth. I won't saddle my loved ones with those horrors.
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I mean I'm literally seeing it with my grandma but she's very chill about it. I wonder what explains the difference in patient happiness
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I meant I hope as it progresses you don't have to see it turn into what I've seen, the terror and rage.
My other grandma was diagnosed with dementia, but it turned out my uncle was smuggling her vodka and she was just incoherently drunk. That didn't seem like a bad way to go.
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In a previous parish, I would visit a retired church worker at the VA. She had dementia and at our first meeting she was very sedate. (The nurse remarked how odd that was.) Every visit after, she remained low-communicative but was always angry. I am glad that we showed her love.
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My grandma's was episodic — every so often she'd realize she was losing it and become bitter at her frailty, further resent her caregiving & skip medication, making everything worse. And once she was too weak to put on her own makeup she did everything she could to hard-quit.
the rate of change can become pretty scary on what I think were extreme cases. It’s nice her life is mellowing though- strange to think about
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Either way man this is a rather bleak and inhumane perspective. I'd rather be stressed, anxious and mentally free than happy as a clam and enslaved to insanity
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"Mentally free" huh