2/ Before one of the sessions started, I struck up a conversation a presenter from earlier in the day. I enjoyed his talk and learned a bit. I told him as much. He asked me about my work. I was "only" a PhD student then, but I knew what I was going to propose for my thesis.
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3/ I told him about it. His response: "That's a blog post not a dissertation." End of conversation.
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4/ He had status in that community; I did not. I figured it was not a good idea to call him a sack of shit, as I'm wont to do. I just stopped talking. He didn't seem to mind.
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5/ It actually fucked with my head for while. Know what doesn't help with
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6/ Removed a few years in time, I can look back with confidence knowing I can do the same work he does. I can contribute to our field. But, had I been in a different point in my life at the time, that type of experience could have pushed me to say, "fuck this, I quit."
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7/ From that experience, it's easy to recognize the basic importance of respecting what people are doing. Even if it's uninteresting to you, it's probably not to them. And, they're putting in work on it, so maybe...don't?
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8/ At a minimum, maybe STFU? Better yet, be supportive and encouraging! (I remember also vividly remember
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9/ But, don't be a dick and do be supportive is only a half the lesson. It also made me realize that my encounter with "that's a blog post not a dissertation"-guy was atypical in that it was an *infrequent* experience. Women experience that shit incessantly.
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2 yrs ago, I studied all-male foreign miner migrant communities (& I had to live in one) for my MA & a fellow MALE MA studied economics of tithing hair. The nmbr of ppl who’d listen to him with interest/respect, but when they heard me would say: “You sure a lady can do that?”
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Now, for my PhD, I’m studying energy in infrastructure - again, male dominated - and I’ve had similar surprised looks, albeit less comments from people because I either don’t talk about it or I buffer by addressing the female point first
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Makes sense in a not good way. The having to not talk about it must be so sad though. :(
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The not talking about it is easier than fighting the urge to thump someone after a(nother) gendered dig. Also, means I don’t risk any assault charges...win-win I’d say
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