Attaching this, since lack of clarity in my communication lead to confusion w.r.t. to this shitpost. Gift giving has an adaptive function. But, the obligation for me is not in reciprocation. That ritual is cool. It's in the expense of "what do you want?"https://twitter.com/Moshe_Hoffman/status/1142851541193252865 …
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I.e. it's not in the distance between what I want and my ability to get it. It's in "make a *decision* and tell me about it so I can do that." That decision is the obligation. And in millennial burnout fashion, it's just daunting. (Adult me is very different from childhood me.)
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Sounds right. Except see... (Game theory often yields counterintuitive results. That our lay theories miss.)pic.twitter.com/kMHfYEzDnX
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Yes. (Although I meant the obligation to come up with something, not the reciprocation part.)
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One year I asked if we could stop exchanging gifts. "But I like what you get me!" I couldn't come up with a response more civil than "Yeah, well, I'm tired of getting shit off of the end caps at Target from you" so I let it drop.
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There’s at least a grain of truth to this. Reminds me of what Derrida said about thank-yous.
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Yes, yes... we’ve all read Derrida on gift giving ...
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well, as long as people know you don't want them, no problem. It does seem a bit sad to me, in that the best gifts are things we want but won't buy for ourselves. Perhaps there's nothing on that list, but I've always found something like that for my family/friends.
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my family for the most part does cash gifts cause everyone is equally picky & I've almost always gotten to pick my gifts otherwise. So I try my hardest to be thoughtful about gifts and just end up really cranky when given impersonal gifts.
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Ugh same
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