I just started reading Irresistable (2017) today. Obviously, I don't know the literature that well yet but... ...the constant insistence that conflict resolution through SMS, iMessage, email, etc is Bad (TM) seems like a gross exaggeration at best.
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"Texting is the worst possible training ground for anyone aspiring to a mature, loving, sensitive relationship." Is it? Really? Why?
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Replying to @generativist
my boyfriend and i often revert to conflict resolution via text because we find that we can "speak" our minds more slowly, more carefully, less reactively that way. sometimes when one of us is upset, we purposely go into a separate room and start texting to slow down the convo.
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Yes. Like, it's a useful speed bump that let's you be less reactive. "You can't take back the stone after it's thrown," and all that. The full paragraph was worse and now I'm skeptical of this book.pic.twitter.com/lGm1fJ1J6h
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mmmm, interesting. it seems like a book whose central thesis i'd be inclined to agree with, but i think this is wrong. i don't know that i can make the case that, on the contrary, texting *encourages* directness, but that argument seems wrong to me.
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Yes. That's how I feel. After I defend, I want to build an affective / attentional immune system, so this is very up my alley! ...but, there's a lot of leaps in here that seem like generational gap projections.
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