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Nov 30, 2020

Hello friends! It's time for me to take a social media break to focus on healing some of the trauma that's made its way to me this year. I'll be back when I'm ready. In the meantime, you can find anything you need in the link in my bio!

(4) I almost exclusively hang out on Instagram these days. And I don't really plan on ever coming back to Twitter in a useful capacity. So come hang out with me there instead: instagram.com/fyeahmfabello

Melissa A. Fabello, PhD on TikTok

(3) I've gotten really deep into Gaylor theories, y'all. And I started a TikTok to talk about it. If that's your thing, follow me:

tiktok.com

@fyeahmfabello 702 Followers, 66 Following, 6882 Likes - Watch awesome short videos created by Melissa A. Fabello, PhD

Politicized Relationship Coaching | Melissa A. Fabello, PhD

(2) I became trained and certified as a life coach! I offer relationship coaching to politicized folks who are struggling to find alignment between their values and their actions. Learn more (and send an inquiry to work with me) here:

melissafabello.com

Values-based sex and relationships coaching with specialties in bisexual identity, non-monogamy, avoidant attachment, breakups, sex and eating disorders, and more.

Hey Twitter! It's been literally years since I've used this app in earnest. So I thought I'd give you some updates: (1) I moved to Los Angeles! And I'm looking for radical, queer, femme friends. Mutuals who are in LA, please DM me so we can hang out.

Nov 30, 2020

Imagine being straight. t.co/NSlRMe2gVK

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maddie mcclouskey

@soundofmaddie

Nov 27, 2020

Question because I’m unfamiliar with the culture: Do all straight people...Hate their spouses?

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Nov 26, 2020

Shout out to

@jackantonoff

for slipping in that the Internet thinks “Betty” is gay.

De-Selfing: The Sacrificial Dating Habit That’s Not Talked About Enoug

Nov 24, 2020

For

@greatist

, I wrote about the common experience of shrinking parts of ourselves for the sake of our partners' comfort. Whether it's our politics, values, dreams, or identities, we shouldn't have to make ourselves smaller to keep our relationships.

greatist.com

De-selfing is a slow, painful process. You might not even know you’re doing it until it’s too late. Melissa Fabello breaks down how to find out if you’re de-selfing and if it’s a sign to revisit a...

Melissa A. Fabello, PhD (@fyeahmfabello) • Instagram video

ICYMI: Last week, I went live on Instagram to chat about eating disorders and sexuality. And the saved video is still available to watch:

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Struggling with your queer identity, as bisexual women in relx with cishet men, is a common experience. So how come it's not mine? I sat down to reflect (within myself and with friends) and came up with five patterns that help quell this. For Patreon: patreon.com/posts/43866131

Greatist

@greatist

Nov 19, 2020

Why isn’t it normal to pull a Frida and Diego and live separately, connected by a bridge? Sounds like less folks would be breaking up over dirty dishes. 👀 ter.li/sdd6dv

Greatist

@greatist

Nov 22, 2020

“I realized at some point that the love I grew up believing would save me — romantic, cisheteronormative, exclusive love — was something I needed to challenge. And I soon discovered love doesn’t have to follow those rules.” ❤️

@wordsfromjenn

ter.li/dd5r3u

Bitch Media

@BitchMedia

Our First Love Stories and Heartbreaks Often Involve Our Friends

“We’ve been socialized to believe that the failure or success of romantic relationships is our responsibility, but we’re offered much less guidance and support when it comes to healing our friendships.”

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Love is a verb and requires action—and that goes for our friendships too.

This will forever haunt me. t.co/xKU7kIkuRl

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Caleb Luna

@dr_chairbreaker

Nov 21, 2020

‘healthy’ food will never be affordable because then health and its signifier, thinness, would lose their raced and classed statuses under racial capitalism and 500 years of Western colonization. ‘only the healthy survive’ is a genocidal strategy.

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Appetite: Sex, Touch, and Desire in Women with Anorexia

💡 Wanna learn more about eating disorders and sexuality? I wrote a whole book on that:

routledge.com

The first comprehensive resource on anorexia and women’s sexuality in the world, this book presents a model for understanding sexuality as complex with interconnected factors, and how anorexia...

Melissa A. Fabello, PhD (@fyeahmfabello) • Instagram video

Missed today’s live chat on eating disorders and sexuality? No problem! You can still watch the recorded version right here:

instagram.com

In just TEN MINUTES, I’m starting an Instagram live chat on eating disorders and sexuality. Find me

on Instagram to come live – or to access the saved video! Will I see you there?

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YAY! Definitely go check that out on Instagram. Melissa is great at explaining this and her BOOK is amazing so if you haven't gotten it yet, the link is here: routledge.com/Appetite-Sex-T

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REMINDER: Today at 3pm (ET), I’m going live on Instagram to talk about eating disorders and sexuality. And there’s still time to get your question in!

Follow me @fyeahmfabello on Instagram to join.

REMINDER: Today at 3pm (ET), I’m going live on Instagram to talk about eating disorders and sexuality. And there’s still time to get your question in! 🗳️ Follow me

on Instagram to join.

Nov 19, 2020

Tomorrow at 3pm (ET), I'm hosting an Instagram LIVE chat on sexuality and eating disorders. Want to submit a Q? See my Instagram stories (same username) for the question box. Let's unpack this nuanced conversation together! 🍑

Nov 18, 2020

I just told my partner, “I have to go to the post office,” and they looked at me quizzically and asked why, as if my answer wasn’t going to be “I have to send something in the mail.”

eRoscoe

@MysteryMonkey49

On the other hand, here is a book about food and queerness and sexuality that I absolutely will be reading. Very much looking forward to this

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Today is the day! My book "Appetite: Sex, Touch, and Desire in Women with Anorexia" is NOW AVAILABLE in hardcover and paperback! Have you ever wondered how women with anorexia experience sexual behavior, identity, violence, and more? Find out: routledge.com/Appetite-Sex-T

cancela lansbury

@gossipbabies

So Twitter is Instagram now and Instagram is a mall . What’s next Amazon is the state ?? Wait

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Appetite: Sex, Touch, and Desire in Women with Anorexia

🎉 Today is the day! My book "Appetite: Sex, Touch, and Desire in Women with Anorexia" is NOW AVAILABLE in hardcover and paperback! Have you ever wondered how women with anorexia experience sexual behavior, identity, violence, and more? Find out:

routledge.com

The first comprehensive resource on anorexia and women’s sexuality in the world, this book presents a model for understanding sexuality as complex with interconnected factors, and how anorexia...

Lindo Bacon (formerly Linda)

@LindoBaconX

Critical thinking. Original thought. Social commentary. Systemic analysis. Scientific rigor. Engaging storytelling. Smart as all get out. I treasure everything from Melissa Fabello.

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Appetite: Sex, Touch, and Desire in Women with Anorexia

routledge.com

The first comprehensive resource on anorexia and women’s sexuality in the world, this book presents a model for understanding sexuality as complex with interconnected factors, and how anorexia...

Christian Tucci

@chrtucci

Nov 16, 2020

Here's a thread of examples of rhetorical devices in Taylor Swift lyrics:

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Nov 16, 2020

Education is a skill set. It is astounding how disrespected and unvalued teachers and other facilitators are – to the point that people are given teaching jobs without any training. Facilitating learning takes skill and practice and forethought. Let's start respecting that.

Nov 16, 2020

I'm consulting with a client who is creating educational material, and I'm offering advice in learning theory and how to apply that. And they said, "I just want to stop you and reflect back to you how important this is and how much I wish I was taught this in grad school."

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ludi leiva

@ludileiva

Nov 13, 2020

my shop is live! ludileiva.com/shop

Wear Your Voice

@WearYourVoice

Nov 12, 2020

(white) Feminism itself.

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Dr Mary McAuliffe

@MaryMcAuliffe4

Nov 12, 2020

What’s something that feels like feminism, but *isn’t* actually feminism?

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This Clever Principle Might Have You Rethinking All of Your Relationships

Nov 11, 2020

Endeavoring toward relationship anarchy is a powerful practice for a million reasons – not the least of which being that it allows more room for non-romantic relationships. For

@SELFmagazine

, I wrote about why that is (and why it's so fucking important):

self.com

Good friendships are transformative.

I have very limited spots available for January through June 2021. So if you're curious about what consulting could look like for you, you need to let me know NOW. And that part is super easy. All you need to do is fill out this one-question form: melissafabello.com/consulting

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Are you hoping to start an Instagram page, podcast, ebook, or other digital product? Do you want to be a writer, but don't know where to start? Do you need help figuring out what to do after grad school? LET'S TALK. 💬

The way I structure consulting is like therapy for your work (or academic) life. You get weekly coaching calls, supplemental material to move your work forward, and access to my social media audience. The goal is to get whatever you're working on off the ground – finally!

⏰ It's finally that time again: I'm now accepting new consulting clients for January through June 2021! 🎉