Which means that, when he plays with other kids now, I'm very aware of a) his ability to hurt them and b) the need to teach him to NOT.
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This means I am somewhat eagle-eyed when he's playing. If I see him hit, I pull him aside, ask him to apologise and explain why it's bad.
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Happily, this seems to be working. He loves to play, and he's really very sweet - he's just still learning sharing, manners, all that stuff.
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And yet, so often, there are parents who just... find it odd? That I do this? And I honestly DO NOT GET IT.
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I don't mean parents who accept that yes, sometimes kids hit and that's a thing you have to deal with, and give you an understanding smile.
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I mean parents who laugh off the fact that he hits as fine because he's a boy or who act as though toddlers should just self-police hitting.
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Parents who, when I ask my kid to apologise to their child for hitting them, tell me that he doesn't have to. And every time, I just. What?
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In that moment, the point isn't us adults understands that little kids hit. It matters to THE OTHER KID to know that they shouldn't be hurt.
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Today, my son was playing with another little boy, about his age, both quite rough and tumble. I watched to keep an eye on it all.
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At different times, both of them hurt each other. When my son was responsible, I reminded him not to hit and asked him to apologise. He did.
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The other boy's mother laughed and exclaimed how good it was that my son would apologise; hers wouldn't! But she *never asked him to do it*.
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Even when her kid was kicking my kid in the face, she told my son to get out of the way, but didn't tell her son to stop or say sorry.
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And I just. Like. If you're not going to actively teach & remind your kid that some behaviour is hurtful, how the fuck will they know?
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