For someone who's always considered themselves domestically easygoing, if not outright slobby, realising I have some hard limits was WEIRD.
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I give zero fucks about clothes and towels on the floor, for instance, but dropped food - a thing adults don't do so much? That GETS TO ME.
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And realising that has made me reevaluate myself. I'm constantly trying to figure out "is this actually a bad thing, or just a bugbear?".
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It is so very easy as a parent - and often tempting - to double down on an arbitrary verdict or irritation just to seem consistent.
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The kid pushes back; you want them to listen to you, so part of you wants to escalate in turn. And then you think - does this really matter?
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Every day. Over and over. Trying to reevaluate behaviour & expectations - his & mine - to better fit an ever-changing developmental context.
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Which is why, to return to a point, I find it so confronting when parents of little kids especially don't seem aware that they're growing.
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Like, not growing in the literal physical sense - that's obvious - but in terms of their needs, their autonomy, their ability to learn.
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And, somewhat specifically, the idea that you need some kind of balance between helicoptering over kids and leaving them totally alone.
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Like. Okay. My kid, who is three, is the size of a five or six-year-old. We've met literal schoolchildren who are smaller than him.
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He's always been big, he's physically really strong, he was slightly slower to speak than some his age - and, as some toddlers do, he hits.
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He's also an only child who, due to various contextual factors, was really undersocialised when we lived in the UK. (That's a diff. story.)
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Which means that, when he plays with other kids now, I'm very aware of a) his ability to hurt them and b) the need to teach him to NOT.
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