I read recently that many Evangelical men who claim sex addiction actually have a regular libido; they've just been raised to believe that regular sexuality is excessive/sinful and can't deal with it, and honestly I think there's a comparison to be made with purity/anti culture.
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thinking back, some of the fantasies I had in my very early teens were much wilder than the ones I developed as I got older, precisely *because* I was navigating the transition from childhood to adulthood in a way which tangled those things up as I figured out what belonged where
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as such, it's always tracked for me that some of the wildly kinkiest, darkest, most out-there fic on AO3 reads like it was written by fourteen year olds - because I'd wager that a decent chunk of it is, in fact, written by young teens, doing online what I used to do in my head.
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here's the thing about sexual fantasies: we could try and plumb the cultural, specific, unique psychosexual origins of every single fantasy of every single person in search of The Reason Why We Like Stuff, or we could just accept that, actually, it doesn't have to matter.
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like. it can certainly be personally enlightening - and interesting, even! - to poke at why you enjoy a certain fantasy, but if it's just you in your head or a thing you work out in writing, even if written publicly on a site like AO3? it's not mandatory. just tag it & be free.
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I've thought the same thing, I think I have stumbled across the same information before. This idea that yeah, you're guilty for this thoughts is.. very Evangelical
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Raised Evangelical Pentecostal - can confirm!
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I read the Nancy Friday sexual fantasy books when I was in junior high (because no one cards you for books and also...wildly young teen horny) and read them again a decade or so ago, and what struck me is that the women's fantasies are way more weird and varied than men's
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I would love to have a series of books about real (anonymous) people's sexual fantasies like that and the Hite Report books, that were mainstream bestsellers at the time, but updated to include more open LGBTQ+ content, so once again we can understand that fantasies are weird
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