The strident ignorance of Nalini Haynes about experiences other than her own is galling in every way, as though having one marginalisation therefore allows her to set the rules for every other marginalisation, too. It's some straight white nonsense, frankly.
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And my mother isn't homophobic in the least! She just didn't have an understanding of why talking about being queer would be important to me if I was happy in a (straight-passing) marriage; it was just... jarring, to realise I'd been quiet about it so long that she'd forgotten.
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Lmao
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I was 14 and my mother's biggest reaction was to get mad that I thought she'd be bigoted enough to mind so I had to comfort her that I thought she was a good mom and she treated my bisexuality with wary hostility for the next decade. -
oh god I had to do the comforting too; ditto when I told her I was depressed in high school
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I am from the kind of Southern Family where we do not talk about these things so even though I am married to
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I have a friend whose Chinese family transitioned very smoothly from complete denial to arguing with the in-laws about which surname the not-actually-planned-for grandchildren would get, and which family would be designated as "mothers'" or "fathers'".
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THIS
Stories of queer misery are what the cishets (who are not okay) expect, because *of course* it's a miserable experience being non-cishet, because being cishet is Normal and anything else is Misery to be overcome in order to produce inspiration porn.