Like. I'm going out on a limb, here, but if this is your attitude towards marginalization, then perhaps there's a reason you lost your councilling job that goes beyond ableism. Imagine saying any of this shit to a struggling client during a councilling session!
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When it comes to student debt forgiveness in the US, we talk a lot about the selfishness of people who struggled to pay off their loans saying, "Well, *I* had to suffer, so it's not fair that anyone else has an easier time!" and I think that's 100% Haynes's vibe here.
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Should she have suffered in the past? No! Nobody deserves to have their marginalisation ignored or weaponised against them! But this is not a good reason to claim that, because YOU suffered, other people must do so in the future, or else their experiences don't count the same!
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And what Haynes is doing, right here? Is ignoring and weaponising the marginalisation of others against them. She's saying, "unless you perform paincore to my satisfaction, I will not allow you to claim your identity. I will doubt your identity is real. You do not count."
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If a hijabi Muslim takes off her scarf to avoid violence, she is still Muslim. If a mixed-race person passes as white to avoid being targeted for racial abuse, they are still mixed-race. If a queer person stays in the closet to avoid being murdered, they're still queer.
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There's something so depressingly neo-Calvinist about applying this paincore logic to marginalisation. "You've been made to suffer, so embrace the suffering as necessary; avoiding suffering is indulgence, which leads to sin." Literally fuck OFF.
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Also, look. Speaking as someone who is also a white AFAB person? Haynes is a white AFAB person who could stand to realise that, compared to a lot of other people, she still has privilege; it just doesn't relate to her disability.
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Her whole thesis is based on the idea that, if you're not willing to risk the worst that could happen if your marginalisation was always visible, it doesn't count. Hi, hello, every trans person murdered or harassed into suicide for being out WOULD LIKE A FUCKING WORD.
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I just. If you can't acknowledge that maybe, JUST MAYBE, the stakes are higher for some people and in some contexts than others, then perhaps you should consider that your comparative privilege is blinding you to some fairly fucking important truths.
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When I was in high school everyone knew I was 1/2 Jewish. I got death threats and crap on my desk and locker. When I went to college, I didn’t disclose it. One night a hs classmate, who went to the same school as me, outed me at a party after someone said k*k. I was terrified.
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I'm so fucking sorry you've had those experiences <3
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I saw a skinhead movie when I was young and it terrified me. I have always struggled with do I hide what can get me killed or would that be shameful. I think suggesting what someone else should decide is to suggest an understanding of an experience that isn’t your own.
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