Because, see, the thing about @KateElliottSFF and @Kit_Kerr in particular? They used to be members of a website called DeepGenre, where established authors like them offered encouragement and criticism to would-be, often teenage writers like I was then. And they talked to me.
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I cannot now recall whether he was talking about Sansa or Daenerys, but I remember vividly what he said next, grinning, to this group of mostly young women: "Well, I don't know how they're going to shoot the wedding night, because she's so young."
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That comment froze me slightly in place, enough so that I didn't hear the rest of what was said. It felt... gross. Of all the details to wonder about! Of all the things to want to see depicted, a twelve-year-old's wedding night!
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Because his concern wasn't serious, nor was it meant for the as-yet uncast actress and her potential need for a body-double. It was playful worry about the scene itself; the implication that it *needed* to be shown, and yet! What an exciting problem for which to seek sympathy!
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In the decade since 2010, I've grown a lot as a person and a writer. I've been to many more cons, including Worldcons, and have even won a Hugo. And in that time, the constant has been how welcoming and friendly the women of SFF have been to me.
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Queer & afab though I am, I know that I'm still privileged in con spaces as elsewhere: I'm white, English-speaking from a western country, middle class. I'm not trying to paint the white women of SFF as its universal saviours: I've seen *plenty* of appalling white lady behaviour.
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I'm achingly aware of how many POC especially, how many marginalised writers, never had anyone welcome them into SFF the way I was welcomed by the writers I grew up admiring; who've had to fight to clear space for themselves. I hate that this is the case!
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Nor am I saying that the fuckery of GRRM and Silverberg at the 2020 Hugos somehow magically ceases to matter just because I've never considered either to be integral figures in my mental genre-gospel. What they did was lazy, gross and self-serving in every way.
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What I *am* trying to get at is why their decision to ramble on about Campbell, Lovecraft and their own glory days under the guise of Representing The History Of The Awards And Genre is so goddamn obnoxious: because it assumes a universal entry into SFF that does. not. exist.
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The fact is, there's as many ways to get into SFF as there are SFF fans, and while there's always going to be overlap, telling the same old war stories over and over again doesn't remotely acknowledge the plurality of where the genre has been - or, crucially, where it's going.
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An uncomfortable truth about SFF - which is, I suspect, also true of most other creative niches/fields - is that it's always going to be cliquey. When your peers are your peers because you share an interest that is also your joint profession, friend & professional circles merge.
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It's a feature as well as a bug, which means that, while you can't eradicate it, you absolutely have to be *aware* of it, because while you might not notice Your Circle forming? Everyone on the outside of it sees its circumference lit up in neon.
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So, what do you do with all those circles? Ideally, you try to make them into chainmail, not polka dots: you want connections that links groups together in a way that acknowledges both overlap and difference, not variously-sized, solid-colour blocs broken up by gaping spaces.
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The past is important, but it shouldn't be elevated at the expense of the present, nor lauded to the exclusion of the future. And when GRRM and Silverberg get up and tell the same six stories every year, that's what they're doing: speaking just to Their Circle, the glorious past.
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I don't know what Worldcon will look like in the future, because I don't know enough about conrunning to comment. Can the Hugos be detached from it? Is there an enduring core of people who keep making the same mistakes each year, or is it the lack of same that's the issue?
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All I know is, given that SFF pro/friend cliques are inevitable, we need to aim for chainmail, not polka dots. And right now, I don't think the same old guard of dudes can be trusted to achieve that.
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But even though it frequently exasperates me, I don't want to give up on SFF fandom entirely, either. It matters a lot to me that the writers I grew up respecting welcomed me into the genre - that they were all, unfailingly, polite and kind, even if I only met them for a moment.
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GRRM was disinterested that first time we met; we've met subsequently, too - even had an actual conversation one time, though probably not one he enjoyed or recalls - and I would be startled if he knew me from Adam.
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I briefly met Silverberg in 2018 at San Jose; he looked through me, not recognising my name even though I was on the list of Best Fan Writer nominees he was set to read out that evening. Neither man was rude, per se; they just weren't interested.
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But it doesn't have to be that way, is the point. That aloof indifference to any newcomers whose names you don't recognise - that shouldn't be the default, and I hate that so many writers and fans have just had to accept it as such.
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Because when I was a tiny new writer at my first EVER Industry Event, a small dinner at my publisher's place,
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THAT was my introduction to fandom: established women making time for a newcomer, holding out a hand and acting as if I was in the right place. And that is what I think fandom should always strive to be, across all axes of marginalisation: a place where we welcome the future.
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Because the thing about the future? It rarely looks quite like the past, and you have to lay ground for it in the present. And that's impossible to do if your base approach to greeting *new* people is to be, on some level, tuning out anyone who Doesn't Already Matter.
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Is it really so hard to be welcoming? To look at newcomers and be excited just by their presence, without running a mental calculation about whether you want to endorse them; if they'll be worth the investment? Apparently, for some, it is. And they shouldn't be in charge.
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