Re: the personal/professional overlap of writing, my most common anxieties are "is this person my friend or do they just see me as a professional connection?" and "have I been downgraded from connection to acquaintance b/c I'm not producing enough or is my friend just busy?"
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Throw in the fact that many of my writer friends are introverts, and I'm constantly anxious that I'm reaching out too much, bothering them, nagging them to hang out when they're busy. Which means that slow or non-replies make me start to worry, in turn, that I've lost a friend.
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I try to be rational about this. People have lives! Not everything is about me! I'm the extrovert, so it makes sense I'd be the one reaching out more often! But when people seldom or never make a reciprocal social effort, it makes me worry I'm being tolerated only as a contact.
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Which in turn feels like a dumb and arrogant anxiety to have, because it comes off as self-aggrandising even in my own head to think I'd be professionally worth that sort of effort. So then I end up sitting here like, "Maybe adulthood just sucks like this, forever."
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