I think people are continually surprised by how often I use believability as a metric when evaluating practical advice:
- have you had at least 3 successes in the domain?
- do you have a coherent explanation?
If yes, queue to test against reality. If no, discount advice.
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How do you ask for advice/seek viewpoints about less common topics where the 3 examples might not be available? Also what about advice via failure modes? Eg ‘I did this and it didn’t work’ etc
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Oh this is a fantastic question! I think in practice believability is a spectrum. So, if you only have 2 successes, and I can’t find anyone with 3, I’m probably going to take your advice seriously and try it. (Though with the understanding it might not work out.)
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Failure modes are trickier. I find that if you’re more believable than I am in the domain, I tend to overweight what you’ve tried and haven’t gotten to work and therefore ignore it.
In practice this means I might not critically consider context.
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Yup makes a lot of sense. Another angle I personally struggle with both as a giver and receiver is personal situation Eg what worked for me as a woman 5 years ago may not apply to man in the same circumstance etc
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Advice giving should come with a Hippocrates oath - ‘first do no harm’ 😂
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Yes! Yes to both things you said. I think one hack I’ve found around the first thing is “I’m not sure it applies in your context but I can tell you my context and what I tried that worked” … and just assume the other person is smart enough to evaluate 😅