the demands of life and desires of the heart are very different across these phases. a schoolboy wants very different things, and needs to be a different sort of person, than a breadwinner
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2. letting ones desires and identity transition to accommodate the demands of a new phase is disorienting and possibly the most challenging part of a person's life, and stumbling may be the source of many hard lives. I am imagining two main classes of failure modes here
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the first failure mode is the obvious one of not letting oneself change. i had been stumbling about with this one without knowing it for a while by keeping work (which does actually matter) at arms length from what I imagined my life to be about
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a very good depiction of a similar case is in _Juno_; if you've seen it you know the character I'm talking about (I don't think I was anywhere near as bad as that one)
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consider also Matthew McConaughey in Dazed and Confused; Linus and his security blanket these are extreme cases
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the second failure mode is swerving so hard into the new phase that one fails to integrate it with their past lives this is subtler and I don't have any clean examples from fiction but I suspect its nevertheless a real problemhttps://twitter.com/acidshill/status/1435828877469704196?s=19 …
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It's hard to find examples of this in fiction (especially film) because, quite often, the protagonist's -explicit goal- is to make some square who has comfortably left his past in the past to act like that persona again.
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This is an interesting comment on what I expect is primarily western/American media and the people who make it
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Touché although the product of a different time Trying to come up with some more recent examples Maybe “a few good men”, and even that was 30 years ago
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Good Will Hunting?
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Replying to @ivashko @upstatefederlst
ehhhhh its more appealing when youre a kid I think
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