the first failure mode is the obvious one of not letting oneself change. i had been stumbling about with this one without knowing it for a while by keeping work (which does actually matter) at arms length from what I imagined my life to be about
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a very good depiction of a similar case is in _Juno_; if you've seen it you know the character I'm talking about (I don't think I was anywhere near as bad as that one)
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consider also Matthew McConaughey in Dazed and Confused; Linus and his security blanket these are extreme cases
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the second failure mode is swerving so hard into the new phase that one fails to integrate it with their past lives this is subtler and I don't have any clean examples from fiction but I suspect its nevertheless a real problemhttps://twitter.com/acidshill/status/1435828877469704196?s=19 …
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im imagining the damage from such a failure as the debris of broken relationships and a loss of personal meaning, of waking up at 45 and getting a divorce and a sports car and getting hair plugs and wondering what has happened with your life
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I hate a lot of things about _American Beauty_ but maybe it does get this right
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I dont know that I have any good advice about how to manage this apart from "this happens, and remember that scylla and charybdis bound these channels" let your identity be flexible as your needs change I guess, while tending to things you care about to keep them continuous
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eigenrobot Retweeted sev
I love this yes thank youhttps://twitter.com/PageSeverian/status/1435837457946144770?s=19 …
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This hurt to read and I needed to read it. I think becoming a parent might be the transition to "no longer the protagonist of my own life"... that is so frightening and I need to take this time to make peace with that
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I really like this framing. you can still be a protagonist; only the story is different. :)https://twitter.com/PageSeverian/status/1435837457946144770?s=19 …
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