working on a theory re: apologies and such specifically I get the sense that people have come to misunderstand apologies. I don't entirely understand them myself but I want to spitball
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if I accidentally cut in line, a quick apology and a sheepish look is appropriate going into exile in a hairshirt is not, no matter how much of a utility monster the offended party is. and if they were to insist on that. once more theyre kind of the dick now
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C) my suspicion is that maybe the misunderstandings in A and B have led to people being very reluctant to apologize when they are clearly in the wrong because the offended party might use any acknowledgment of trespass as an opportunity to destroy them
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and i don't think this is a fear that is unfounded! it is a pity though because this means no one apologizes they just kind of raise their hackles and say how DARE you imply that I admit fault ever and you get retarded doublings down on being a dick that a simple sorry would fix
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apologies have a lot to do with maintaining social coherence and as noted are a really important ritual im not sure what the direction of causality is between their degradation and social disintegration but it seems salienthttps://twitter.com/Amos_5_18/status/1424992177650864128?s=19 …
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anyway I hope this helps its good practice to think about this as you go about your day on anon twitter and if your inappropriately rude to someone try saying sorry just to take a crack at it and then if theyre a dick about it, you know, just refuse, which is also good practice
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special thanks to the Church for really honing the matter of soteriology to a fine point and passing it to me in my younger days. im grateful for this and hope I have not misrepresented her terms too badly
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last thought in some ways this might make contemporary apologies a flex to the extent that it implies the person your apologizing to is not actually a threat to you not sure what i think of this.https://twitter.com/eigenrobot/status/1424992991760977923?s=19 …
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It seems like this is related to the modern phenomenon where people are seemingly incapable of admitting they are wrong about something, or admitting that they made a mistake. The SOP is to dig in try to retcon events or double down to a degree that is ridiculous
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But people are often socially forced to forgive when they really can’t. This is especially true for the weakest parties.
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