if you are a young man one good way to spend your early years is to live in such a way that when you have children, you have a thousand stories about your life to share with them and several hundred you probably shouldn't
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Replying to @eigenrobot
This was similar advice a pastor gave us during pre-marriage counseling; if you can, wait a while (we waited 9 years) to have kids after getting married. This lets you build your relationship on each other, instead of building it based on your kid(s)
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Replying to @OneEyedAlpaca @eigenrobot
This leads to better parenting (you and your spouse are a unified team when it comes to discipline) and when the kids move out of the house, your life does not become meaningless
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Replying to @OneEyedAlpaca
we had our baby a few days before our first anniversary; we had been together a bit more than a year before marrying. I think it's not bad advice but possibly not universally optimal either. but I see the need for sure.
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Replying to @eigenrobot
And your route is absolutely good, especially if you are well developed in your relationship
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we want a lot of kids very much so time is a considerstion. we'd planned on waiting a bit longer, but pandemic moved our schedule up, mentally
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