For what it's worth, my take is online compliments are definitely at lower risk of causing harm, but also lower benefit for both of you. Not a terrible place to practice (once you have the basics and are being thoughtful and considerate), but you could also start with friends.
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The basics of compliments on appearance: - err on side of only when solicited - things people chose > things they didn't - it will likely be taken differently from women than men
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- no sexual comments unless you know them or have built a rapport
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All of this assumes you give a shit about the experience of the person you're complimenting. If you don't, fuck you and I don't have advice for you.
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To add on to the risk: you can build rapport with an online person before sending random compliments! This is what good reply game is about. DM and become Twitter friends.
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hmm this feels different than how i understand compliments (??) curious about what you make of thishttps://twitter.com/eigenrobot/status/1186471007546011650?s=19 …
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I agree with you! Seems really similar to the post that
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I think the notion of complimenting being a situation where someone was likely to be harmed or offended was a bit strange to me--i don't think I've had that experience in my life either as complimenter or complimented
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I think the difficulty is basically subtext. A pure compliment isn't generally going to be harmful, but a lot of compliments seem more like hitting on someone or trigger a "What do they want from me?" reflex.
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Yes, definitely to both of those. Also some "compliments" are really condescending.
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ugghhhh ok yes that makes sense "thing that is not compliment presented as compliment for plausible deniability" I hate it when people do this thanks for clarification :)
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