in just over a week i'm moving in with the bf -- it'll be the first time i'm living with an S.O. what sorts of things do you wish you'd known before doing this??
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Replying to @goblinodds
talk about things that irritate you lovingly but as soon as possible after you notice them otherwise they will keep irritating you and accumulating and one day you will blow up out of nowhere and your bf will have no idea what happened and everyone will be sad
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Replying to @eigenrobot @goblinodds
good advice maybe a convo in advance about how you both prefer to hear about things that irritate the other person and about how it's an inevitability of learning to share a space, not a personal attack on their character -- sets u up to start from an assumption of good faith
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talk about cleanliness expectations (how long can you tolerate seeing a sink full of dishes? Etc)
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if you do get feedback that you've been irritating them, be real about how much effort you can put into accommodating them (for ex: "babe I'm just never going to care that much about sweeping but I'll do chore X instead")
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minor irritants are not "too silly to bring up" and you should err on the side of just being straightforward about your preferences + things you don't give a shit about
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Replying to @selentelechia @eigenrobot
oh that's super good to know :o i tend to have trouble acknowledging things that bother me if they feel unreasonable; i'll keep an eye out for this
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Replying to @goblinodds @eigenrobot
honestly my biggest mistake in my first cohabitating relationship was trying too hard to be "cool" about stuff to avoid being high-maintenance or something
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Flip side of this: you aren't actually obligated to accommodate all of your partner's minor things (and vice versa). That being said "I hear you but I think you'll have to deal with it" probably only comes with significant self and other knowledge about what's important etc.
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