I think for most women this isn’t the case anyway That trope about expiration is a scary thing people strawman around that makes single people feel scary when they’re down a little But you get to determine the bounds of your own goals and happiness /11
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In fact, women in their 40s and 50s that I meet tend to be some of the most well-adjusted, happiest people I run into Their lives do not seem to be, at least externally, curses of unending unlovable misery /12
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Probably because by the time you’re 40 or 50 you’ve been around long enough to reject some of the more harmful messages about women that society throws at you and you’ve learned how to live your life in a way that you’re happy with, surrounding yourself with friends/lovers /13
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I think about my grandma specifically a lot when this topic comes up. She married young (17), had three kids, and is now in her 70s. When my grandpa was 54 and she was 50, he died of pancreatic cancer. /14
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Her kids at that point were all grown and off living their own lives, most of them several states away from her. She lived by herself in the country farmhouse she bought with my grandpa. The normal narrative would say she should be lonely and sad, maybe propped by family. /15
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But actually this was just the start of a new chapter for my grandma. She moved to Florida and made awesome new friends and got a job in a jewelry store and volunteered for the VA and met a new husband and started a prom dress sewing business. /16
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And yeah she also had her family around her down there but not like every minute of every day. It wasn’t her sole source of joy in life. She had to learn to recreate that after the death of her husband for herself, which she did admirably. /17
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And she did this all in her 60s! What do you think your SMV is in your 60s folks? Perhaps we should take this to mean that maybe one’s “SMV” is a very negative and silly designation that ignores a whole range of things that make relationships rich and fun and rewarding. /18
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All this to say that when people go “I am annoyed and upset that people keep telling me I expire at 30” and the response is “well you do” I just want to very strongly point out that this is only true through one very narrow and specific lens /19
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And the idea that if you don’t partner up and have kids before 30 that you are doomed to some kind of miserable invisible existence where everyone is an asshole to you is just... not true /20
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Your getting v good at twitter 
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