Helping people is hard. Giving advice to people is rarely effective. Much advice boils down to: here's what I'd do if I were you. The trouble is that although you may see a way out of a given predicament as you imagine yourself facing it, you are not the one in that situation.
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But I don't see any of this resolving what in my local society are basically a set of deep-seated and apparently mostly-heritable problems. No government program is going to accomplish more for these specific relatives than palliation.
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That may be a noble cause, but I don't see welfare described as an ameliorant really ever. It's always a Solution. Outside of a few cases (where people would likely Succeed in any case) I just don't believe it is.
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So, each holiday, I go out to eat with my strugglers. I listen to their stories, and smile when they do well, or (more often) wince when they tell me where they've erred--often not realizing their mistakes. I try to make them feel loved and pick up the tab, and collapse at home.
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