3/ ...but try to live off of the pity and the sympathy and attention as their fuel, like vampires drinking blood. These few are stuck on local optima, where being loudly pathetic guarantees them attention and emotional support. Any progress makes them less pathetic, which >
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4/ means that - in the short term - their social interactions and support dry up a bit. It's a long slog through lowlands between a small local optima just above sea level, and the plateaus in the distance. Many guys don't have a map, and that's OK. Help them by showing them
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5/ ...but others, even after they are given the map, refuse to step down off of their waterlogged perch in the bog, because wading to solid ground is hard, and it's easier to stand still, cry loudly, and let mom dry your tears.
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6/ A month or so back I stopped sugar coating my advice to a few young lads. Most of them responded by angrily turning on me, denouncing me, asserting that I was a secret enemy. Very SJW-like ! You either sooth boo-boos or you're EVIL !!!!
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7/ Anyway, it's a self-solving problem. I've mentored (often no more than a kind word or two via DMs) maybe a dozen guys. Three or four of them had melt downs and blocked me. The others all made me proud with great attitudes and small success, which compound.
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8/ Not sure I have any grand thesis here. A few small theses, though: * progress is hard * screaming at people who try to help with honest feedback is bad * doing so only hurts the screamer * lotta those young men - they're gonna be ok. Makes an old milkman proud. Onward!
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What do you mean, ignore oughts?
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ie avoid oughtism
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