eigenrobots theory and practice of complimenting people!!!! a thread, inspired by a lovely metacompliment
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Some pitfalls. Do not lie when you deliver a compliment. This is harder than an honest compliment, for one thing, as it is difficult to tell a story around a kernel of falsehood. It also may deceive the complimented and deprive them of a chance to live a better, truer story.
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Relatedly, don't give empty compliment. It's important to _perceive_ something good and true, and share that story. Grasping at unheartfelt tropes will ring hollow and never stick, and over time people will notice and devalue such statements.
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Flattery is fine as long as it is _true_ but you must have a very deft delivery or you will read as fulsome and the recipient will be flustered or put off. Flatter rarely and well and honestly.
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Closing thoughts. People need to be seen and need to be loved (there may not be a difference). Giving someone a compliment shows that you perceive them, perhaps better than they do themselves. Compliments ennoble the giver and recipient alike. Be excellent to each other.
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appending this lovely real life example ps dont forget to send thank you cards after Christmas https://twitter.com/WithTheCaswave/status/1208059535673323520?s=19 …
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looking forward to the All Hallow's Eve Eigenzombot special thread on Delivering Mortal Insults with Charity and Grace
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You know what I'll do it feel free to remind me
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Oh hm. Hard to judge--both seem extremely unvirtuous
I guess I can't recommend either in the general case but if I had to pick I think it would be an honest insult - Show replies
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Request: Write this thread about delivering a mortal insult. The Charity and Grace aspect piqued my interest.
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