-lawyers only come into play during the most stressful times in your life and just a huge fucking gap where knowledge about using these relationships *intelligently* should go
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related: I have friends now who talk about net worth goals as a primary focus, rather than debt repayment goals until a few years ago this was a completely novel perspective
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(I don't have a tidy way to finish this thread, but I'm stopping here for now)
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just kidding, I also want to touch on the bizarre experience of being in the middle of a class transition it's like I'm rapidly shifting between two different filters placed over the same scene and they have very different effects on my emotional state
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note that I am not necessarily criticizing a defensive attitude re: debt and the law! it can be pretty functional and lifesaving, especially if you lack access to knowledge about those relationships/agreements
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getting even more speculative I wonder if there's something about whether or not your class/culture feels like monetary transactions (for nontangible goods) are profane, or a little dirty
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as an illustration my mom is disabled, we had foster kids who did a lot of damage to the house amd had hygiene issues so we had a housekeeper come twice a month for the bathrooms my mother made us clean the house before she arrived (even parts she wasn't cleaning)
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and was generally just a little ashamed of having someone do this, for money like the act of having an *adult* perform a service in exchange for money was intrinsically degrading to everyone involved
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and in fact I was raised to make lots of little gestures in these situations that could be framed as *maintaining the status* of someone doing a service for me like I had to cancel out the implied degradation of being transactional...
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...by engaging in rituals that reinforced a social/community-oriented relationship between us, rather than a purely economic one
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I still offer coffee to people who visit to do stuff for pay whenever I get the chance tbh
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Replying to @eigenrobot @selentelechia
by which I mean I don't think just because a relationship is primarily economic doesn't mean you can't be social to be pleasant and lower boundaries :)
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