thoughtful but cursed thread its nice that people are trying and I am glad people recognize that they are trying but theres no set of rules to follow rather most of flirting (and even socializing) is flitting between rulesets and violating them artfully https://t.co/POemOqVgbI
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I've been thinking about this a lot, trying to make a big formless thing legible no success yet but my hunch is that the only way to actually come off as not creepy if this is a problem is to throw yourself into lots of novel situations and often fuck them up until you git gud
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the contemporary problem I think is that people have to use ML terms switched to a high-recall shit-precision model in plain terms people are conflating "awkward" with "dangerous" because idk they're panicking about weirdos I guess both types break rules but only one is malign
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(I'm not actually sure actually dangerous people are likely to get caught by the current threat model like Weinstein and Clinton are clearly not socially awkward)
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anyway it's especially shit because trial and error, simple experience, are necessary to develop adult social fluency and this rigid-but-still-tacit ruleset is likely to be ruinous for experimentation and development I'm sorry everyone we live in a society
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Some people are into that
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other than the obvious autism eliminationsim i'm a big fan
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hmm eliminationist in which sense?
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over time plenty of women have admitted (through the internet or IRL) that "creepy" means "not hot enough to get away with certain behavior" privilege is "access to <the secret handbook of when you're allowed to break the public handbook's rules>" -- slavoj zizek maybe
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how long until PUA ebook on "harmless professional day game" follow all the rules and still fuck
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Tired: DD/lg Wired: Manager/direct report
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