Evan Urquhart

I didn't model myself on women. I didn't... relate... to women in certain senses. I formed assumptions about how I would be treated...

...and the sort of deference I was entitled to that were almost totally based in my internal gender sense not in the real world.

When I talk with my wife (a cis woman) it's often clear how different I was. I saw myself as a boy/man, with women as almost irrelevant.

Must have been so hard growing up in a society that didn't have 'room' for you and offered such a narrow choice of who to develop into.

Well, patriarchy/gender roles are like that for everyone, to an extent. I had an atypical experience of something that oppresses everyone.

Agreed! I so wish more ppl could see that. The true rad fems I follow, point it out. I suspect the haters aren't feminists at all!!

There are many radical feminists who include & accept trans folk. There's also TERFs who I disagree with but aren't jerks & have open minds.

There are even some ideas from that side about not rushing to medicalize too quickly/too young that should be engaged with/thought about.