Evan Urquhart

I literally stopped dead on the street with the thought "I could just say I was trans and transition. No one could stop me or say I wasn't."

It was many months after that that I decided to go forward, but giving myself permission to just be trans if I was trans was a breakthrough.

I think it's one that some people don't or can't have. For me, I'm immensely glad my fear of being laughed at wasn't so strong, in the end.

Perhaps it's implied, but the greatest fear was of being an imperfect or unconvincing man. An effeminate man, a very short man.

Coincidentally(?), these sorts of things are harped on by TERFs. But they can't hurt me now. I'm short & sometimes effeminate. AND IT'S OKAY

Which Radical Feminists go on about height or effeminate appearence in trans men?

There's one website in particular that posts pictures mocking small things like that- hip size, feminine appearance.

But when I get into discussions with them it always comes up, that I'm simulating masculinity poorly and everyone is laughing at me.