Evan Urquhart

Perhaps it's implied, but the greatest fear was of being an imperfect or unconvincing man. An effeminate man, a very short man.

Coincidentally(?), these sorts of things are harped on by TERFs. But they can't hurt me now. I'm short & sometimes effeminate. AND IT'S OKAY

Which Radical Feminists go on about height or effeminate appearence in trans men?

There's one website in particular that posts pictures mocking small things like that- hip size, feminine appearance.

But when I get into discussions with them it always comes up, that I'm simulating masculinity poorly and everyone is laughing at me.

Always a no-win situation, ofc. If I'm patient my soft inner womanness is showing, if I lose patience I'm aping hyper-masculinity poorly.

It's so essentialist, which should be the antithesis of Feminism. Stereotypes should be questioned not reinforced to ridicule & mock others.

This is what I always find odd- they make deeply essentialist statements and can't see that's what they've done. So I go round and round.