Evan Urquhart

I've had some TERFs in my mentions, so I'm going to write a small thread on how embarrassment and self-hatred kept me from transitioning.

I didn't know any trans people growing up, or in college, and so my first exposure was hearing about trans people as a political issue.

And, my reaction to learning about trans people was personal embarrassment combined with a need to distance myself from them.

I never found trans people funny myself, but I knew that other people found them funny, and this was painful to me.

I blamed trans people for that pain. I viscerally wanted them to stop hurting me by being the object of ridicule.

I had a long conversation with a trans-critical person and this basic thing seemed to crop up again and again:

Laying real & hypothetical material harm at the feet of trans people instead of the people who are actually literally carrying out that harm