Evan Urquhart

What about sibs? I'm sandwiched between two brothers & wore lots of unisex clothing. Anything expensive, like winter coats, had to be navy.

My sister and I are two years apart- she's very traditionally feminine so wasn't harmed as much by the expectation that she be so.

She's straight, I guess? I know so many queer femmes who had to reclaim femininity, to reject their socialization & own it for themselves.

Oh yes! (I have even written something on this: http://www.slate.com/blogs/outward/2015/03/12/femme_lesbians_shouldn_t_be_defined_by_their_butches.html …)

Were you stigmatized for resisting? I kinda question the received idea that "we all" think tomboys are cute but girly boys are more suspect.

I was almost completely friendless, but there were tomboys who were popular. They were good at sports- made all the difference.

As a rule I don't think masculinity in women is punished, at least not in the workplace. Lesbians make more than straight women.

It is in France, where I'm from, more than in the US. Oddly, the rules are easier for kids. It's not weird, eg for a boy to wear Mary Janes.