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Often, when you see transphobes talking about the damage being done to our bodies with testosterone or surgery, what they're really complaining about is that we're being made less pretty. There's also a lot of this in the "lost butches" lesbian-TERF narrative.
You look at how prominent detransitioners are talked about, like Keira Bell, and it's dripping with an attitude of "this poor young girl was made into an uggo monster." The facial hair, the body hair, the deep voice- what straight man would ever want to have sex with us?
This is woven into counseling around testosterone, and gatekeeping trans male transition. "Effects are permanent. You can never go back." But, you CAN go back to thinking of yourself as a woman. You CAN go back to presenting femme. You can never go back... to being fuckable.
If being fuckable by straight cis men (and transphobic lesbians) is synonymous with being a woman, then transition becomes this one way door we can walk through... but never fully return from.
This attitude is very rarely challenged. The people who challenge it most often are radical feminists (which makes things A LITTLE AWKWARD), and trans women (also awkward, though less so, and for very different reasons).
Despite the awkwardness, though, I think trans men can look to radical feminist traditions and to trans women.
For instance, I've really drawn strength from comedian @rileyjsilverman (not, let me be clear, an ugly woman) and her embrace of the voice nature gave her.
These traditions suggest that women don't have to be pretty, and may, in fact, own their power by rejecting prettiness. But they can also provide a framework for naming and rejecting the pressure to be a pretty woman as a trans man or nonbinary person. /end
this is one reason i had so much self-loathing. i thought no one would want to be with someone like me? like fuck, i was considered "too hairy" if i didn't shave my body hair before testosterone.
I had this too- even as a lesbian who did really well with other lesbians, there was still this creeping sense of inferiority for not being pretty or noticed by men. And, when I managed pretty, I hated my looks even more. It was so confusing!
This particular attitude effected us even when Apryl, our femme presenting headmate, was host. As an intersex AFAB person, this toxic rhetoric was thrown at us a lot, and at the time, Apryl wasn't even trying to transition, we just happened to have natural facial hair. 
Jamie
These were all when Apryl was host. Before we embraced being intersex. We shaved our face, which caused us a lot of pain. Our face breaks out really bad when we shave it. pic.twitter.com/ZJiNRCtKsy
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