Evan Urquhart

There are trans people who were lucky/unlucky enough to be strongly gender nonconforming from early childhood, but there's also a lot of us who figured out what the expectations were and conformed to them, and I think we often feel a lot of self-doubt and shame because of it.

It's not enough to just say YOU ARE VALID. (Though, of course, you are.) Instead, say: These gender role expectations are a con. They're a crock of shit we inflict on children and very few children, cis or trans, come out entirely unscathed.

Its hard to imagine what I'd be like if my mom wasn't so freaked out by gender nonconformity, or if our relationship had been different. I eventually learned mom took an anti-miscarriage drug when she was pregnant with me that was later found to have masculinizing effects.