Evan Urquhart

Glinner acting like he's the first man on the HER app: Dude. I'm a man who's had an account on HER long before you knew what HER even was.

As always trans men don't fit into their little plans. My HER profile says basically: Hey, I'm a trans man! Not trying to step on anyone's toes, but I prefer dating within the queer community so hmu if you date men and if not, no worries, hope you find who you're looking for!

I've genuinely never had anything but a positive and friendly reception. I'm currently taking a break from dating to heal and regroup after some personal struggles, but HER is a great app with chill vibes and I'll be back there soon, no doubt.

I don't discriminate against straight cis women, but they DO discriminate against me, so using a queer app feels more natural, even as a straight guy. I'm not hung up on the pronoun in the app title either. It's a space I tread lightly in, recognizing it's not primarily for me.

This is a tangent, but my dating preferences changed more than I could have imagined when I was in my 30s. I used to be afraid of aging out of dating 20-somethings. Now it's women over 35, preferably w/ kids. They're in my life stage and have priorities that feel like they fit.