Evan Urquhart

My gender dysphoria is based on physical attrubutes, not social role. There's nothing about a natal male body I wouldn't want, and nothing about a natal female body I'd like to keep.

I pursued/am pursuing a binary gender transition. When people gender me male that is comfortable- no part of myself cries out "that's wrong!" So, when I say "I am a man" I mostly mean that when people see me as a man, that's the most comfortable situation for me.

could you elaborate on what you mean by "my gender dysphoria is based on physical attrubutes" + "when people see me as a man, that's ... most comfortable"? b/c feeling uncomfortable when ppl fail to perceive you as a man just is "social dysphoria" (as i understand the term)

Yeah, I'll gladly say more about that. Before I experienced physical changes I actually felt LESS comfortable when people used he/him pronouns for me in queer spaces.

My body hadn't changed, so the use of male pronouns felt awkwardly premature. I preferred female pronouns while my body was still female-coded. Now when I'm gendered male by strangers, it reinforces how my body changed, which feels good. Absent those changes it did not.

huh, that's interesting so would transition be completely unappealing/incomprehensible to you if medical technology didn't enable the alteration of sex characteristics?

Yes- even in a completely affirming environment I'd have no interest in social transition without medical transition. In a totally unaffirming situation I'd want medical transition just as much even if name/pronoun and other social changes were off limits somehow.

if, pre-transition, you could have taken a magic pill to eliminate all physical dysphoria (no side effects), would you have preferred that to transitioning? and, if so, is that a 'duh, obviously' kind of decision?