Evan Urquhart

I’m very willing to agree that there’s cultural misunderstandings at play, but I want to push back a little at the idea that there’s no need for trans men as bigger voices in the public sphere, or that our doing low key behind the scenes org work fully makes up for that.

That said- it isn’t primarily trans women’s fault, or trans women’s responsibility. A plaintive wish that there was more of an effort to help lift our voices (in America) was just that, not intended as blame.

The problem here Evan is you're seeing trans women as the gatekeepers to that visibility and not the cissexist society that also mainly chooses to platform trans women who conform to particular aesthetic norms pleasing a white, liberal,still fairly sexist male gaze and conscience

I’ll just repeat what I said, and meant, sincerely- that I agree it’s not primarily trans women’s fault, or trans women’s responsibility. But the speed with which a segment of our community jumped in to dunk on me and take me down seems like an example of what I was describing.

I wonder, how many of these joyous dunkers and pilers-on have trans male role models? How many retweet even a third as many trans men as trans women. But a trans guy misspeaks, and everyone is here.

Join the fucking club dude.

Excuse the deletion, in the moment I shared personal info I don’t generally disclose, not anything to do with you or your response, purely an “oh shit, whoops” moment for me.