Evan Urquhart

I’ve talked about this before. While trans activism as a collective has decided “we” want to be asked about our pronouns, I personally have always found it othering and awkward to the extreme. Not passing priv, either: Pre-passing I preferred people just calling me she. https://twitter.com/ContraPoints/status/1167966462318764033 …

Ppl who feel empowered by being asked their pronouns “won” this one. I don’t get it, but I’ve consciously chosen not to use platforms available to me to push back. But you can’t make me feel the way you feel or like what you like.

I’d rather be called she forever without anyone batting an eye than have to specify a pronoun preference whenever I meet someone new. My dysphoria has always had to do with how my body looks and feels. I just don’t care about pronouns the way others do.

It feels like this is a place where the trans movement could grow a bit. It’s not an attack to say “hey... this thing you like? Not everyone likes it as much as you.”