This is true but I think Natalie is sidestepping something that I find genuinely confusing: Can you ever say that someone who feels an attraction to a non-passing trans person, however fleeting, is still straight (or gay)? Or is that verboten? https://twitter.com/ContraPoints/status/1086351169054797825 …
Contra has a philosophical bent, and in philosophy these edge cases and thought experiments are important. "If the straightest man ever sees a non-binary AFAB who is presenting femme under a full moon IS HIS ATTRACTION STRAIGHT???"
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And, I think there are 2 fair answers to that. One is, simply, yes. If a straight man sees a non-binary person who is presenting femme, and never talks to them or finds out anything about their identity, then we can't really say their identity has queered his attraction style.
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But the other fair answer is to say that these hypotheticals box in our understanding of the messy real world attractions that don't stop at seeing someone on the subway. That people's real life experiences can be queered by unexpected attractions.
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If people's real life experiences can be queered by unexpected attractions, then what we're doing when we ask whether a lesbian whose partner transitions to male seven years after they broke up is still a lesbian is just propping up rigid ways of seeing sexuality and attraction.
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And, I think it's fair to ask: Is it necessary to understand who still counts as gay and who still counts as straight, when it comes to trans people, and if so, why?
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