It continues to make me uncomfortable that the trans community has pushed asking about pronouns keeps being pushed as the height of trans-aware politeness.https://twitter.com/HRC/status/1052554593262034945 …
For one thing, being trans to me is primarily about how my body looks, not how I'm talked about. Making pronouns central to trans identity highlights something I find irrelevant and forces me to continually act like I think it's as important as everyone else does.
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For another, as much lip service as people give to the idea that everyone should go around asking everyone else's pronouns all the time, in the real world I'm asked when, and only when, people know or suspect I'm trans.
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I'd really rather not be singled out and pulled into these awkward pronoun interactions with cis people who think they're doing something good.
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And, it's not the cis peron's fault! They're doing what the trans community has told them they're supposed to do. I can't complain or correct them without undermining the trans community, so I go along with it. But, twitter, for the record: I hate this shit.
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Ask about pronouns before assuming