if your friends are mentally ill & you use your mental illness as an excuse for why you treat them in ways that exacerbate their illnesses despite being asked not to, you're still an ableist asshole.
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good borderline self-affirmation: my illness doesn't make me Bad; i'm sick, not evil, & i can change how i express that sickness in ways that make me a better person overall. only i decide if i am a Good Person.
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hey everyone, this isn't about "my friend with depression is a drag;" it's about "my friend lashes out at me & manipulates me & won't let me have other friends." if you drop a friend bc they're sad a lot, sorry to say, you're an ass.
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I relate with this quite a lot. Dealt with an unhealthy "friendship" for over a year before realizing I was enabling their bad behavior from the start. Depression can be difficult to deal with, especially if you're going through it yourself at the same time.
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When I finally got help for my depression, my so called friend kept dragging me right back into the fray on top of a dependency issue between us. For my own mental health, and theirs, I had to break off contact.
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this is exactly the situation i was in, except it was more than depression and really turned into abuse, manipulation, and extreme possessiveness. and at that pont, the excuse of "but i'm ill" doesn't fly bc... so am i.
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I totally understand where you're coming from. My "friend" kept wanting to wallow in their own self-pity rather than try to make things right between us. I'm more than willing to make amends, but not if they refuse to move on too.
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especially when, after a certain point, it turns into less of an apology and more "oh no i'm the worst person ever oh i'm so bad i hate myself" until the person receiving the apology has to comfort the person supposed to be giving it. it's not fair.
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OUCH. This was so me a few years ago. Still sometimes, but nowadays I try my best to avoid it.
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me too. all we can do is try!
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i was in the exact same situation with my ex for 8 years until i had enough and finally broke off contact. it’s left me scarred but i’m getting better. one should always remember that a mental illness should never be used as a free pass to be manipulative, abusive and horrible.
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It is important, however, to remember to be patient with friends who are mentally ill. They drag you down day after day? Keep your distance. They have one outburst and immediately recognize what they did is wrong- it's important to be forgiving and supportive. Granted, not
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as someone with a severe mental illness: yes. but we have to understand that other ppl have limits. we can only expect ppl to stick around so long if we keep lashing out and mistreating them. this was really meant to be about a specific type of behavior/reaction & i didn't really
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expect it to do any kind of numbers at all! i was jut talking about personal experiences.
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"Only reveal your problems to people who can solve them." -some dude
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not at all what i said but mmk
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Sounded somewhat similar to me.
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it's about a mentally ill roommate who abused and manipulated and controlled me for 2 yrs but go off
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also about my own past behavior lol
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You made an entire thread about controlling mental illness and yet you’re here in the comments being snippy for no reason. Do better
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hey go fuck yourself
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