i get the heart behind reaching out to people who might be struggling. i really do. but let me say this: nothing makes me feel worse then when a loved one points out that my symptoms are showing.
if you do notice a friend struggling the best thing to do is just be there, at the ready. “let’s hang out.” “let’s go for a walk.” “work’s been fucked lately let me tell you.”
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those are much more productive in helping me honestly and are more likely to get people to open up as it doesn’t make them feel like a burden.
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i know it’s hard to watch someone suffering, and you’re desperate and just want to help and have them be better, but giving constant reminders of how i fail at being a Functioning Person does not help me.
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so just be at the ready for when and if that person decides it’s time. show that you’re there for them by, like, BEING THERE for them, not guilting them into talking before they’re ready.
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and when they are ready you better fucking LISTEN. don’t immediately jump into advice mode unless asked for it.
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