Lol well I’m a cis man so I ain’t wading into those waters with you bc I don’t know. But what I’ve tried to suggest to cis women is that just bc trans women’s struggles don’t match yours in every way, doesn’t mean they’re not women’s struggles.
Plenty of black people have VERY different experiences of blackness than I do. Some of us experience housing segregation, some don’t. Some experience school segregation, some don’t. Some experience mass incarceration, some don’t. But we all still experience black struggles.